Clearly this kind of behavior is destructive, yet we’ve all done it at some point and have probably felt pretty justified in doing so. Giving him the cold shoulder felt like a way to hide this “weakness” and assert my own power to hurt him.
See, some kinds of conflict threaten our sense of self. It also was a way to protect my ego, because by not talking things out I could avoid challenging my current belief system, thus maintaining the belief that I was right and he was wrong. The problem was that by focusing on defending myself, I was basically putting all my energy into avoiding what I didn’t want—pain and suffering—instead of into creating what I actually more than simply not getting hurt, but I wasn’t working toward it.
There are conflicts of needs, wants, preferences, interests, opinions, beliefs and values. Most conflicts are in areas that have more than two alternatives.
A few people can control their anger, competitive, I-give-up feelings and self- serving tendencies and genuinely seek a fair, optimal solution for both parties. If you do not like the choice your partner wants, and your partner does not like your choice, with a little more effort you might be able to find another alternative that you both like and want. When you cannot find an alternative that you both want, look for an option that is acceptable to both of you, or negotiate an agreeable compromise.
Neither gets everything he/she wanted, but each gets enough to be satisfied. When the conflict is over an issue that has only two choices, one person will get what he/she wants and the other will not. If you are fair with each other and generally half the time each gets your own way; it will be easier for each of you when you dont.
The loser will trust that next time or the time after that he/she will be the winner.
Office romances aren’t a business liability as long as there are policies and procedures in place to ensure that employees’ personal lives remain personal and their work professional.
The company should also have a policy regarding sexual harassment.
Conflicts run all the way from minor unimportant differences to critical fights.
Furthermore, even if neither person wants an escalation, each one feels entirely justified in their response, based on how they were treated. Personally, I hated how vulnerable I felt when my husband did something that hurt my feelings.
It’s the same principle as giving someone “a taste of their own medicine,” and it leads to conflicts that spiral out of control, becoming harder and harder to resolve. I felt scared that he had the power to make me feel so upset.
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