In his book, “Dataclysm,” he points out that who we want to be and who we really are can be two very different things.
Data reveals truths that we might not want to say out loud.
To tell men NOT to feel this way would be akin to telling them not to breathe.
Now, I don’t always agree with all of the conclusions that Rudder draws from his Ok Cupid data.
something I'm sure you all heard as freshman during “Hell Week”), the next logical step is to break down what goes into dating them. A challenge is enticing, but don't take it too far, lest you become an angry remonstrance.
Put another way, if a woman has an array of other quality options closer to her age range, what incentives would she have to date a man who is SEVENTEEN YEARS OLDER? Before any 40 people get all hot and bothered about this – I am not judging. I do think people improve with age (my wife is nodding). She doesn’t need a guy who will be taking Viagra when she’s sexually peaking at 43..Okay, Evan, I agree mostly with your opinion on younger men/older women. I mean, I can see why an older man would want to date a younger woman – physically that is, but why would a 28-year-old woman want to date a man 45 or more? I can totally understand why older men go for younger women.There’s no denying that they’re, for the most part, in better shape, with better skin, and less baggage from broken relationships. While statistics can, theoretically, be used to prove/disprove anything, smart people can usually see through the lies to focus on the numbers.Christian Rudder, president of Ok Cupid, is the guy who digs up the numbers from the millions of people using his free dating site.Without those weightier responsibilities, Millennial boys (or, for the most part, the ones I've encountered) are living this suspended fratboy mentality.Thus, we ladies have looked to older men to fulfill those more grown-up needs.Of course, when you flip the data around and look at what age men find women most physically appealing, you get an appalling answer. It’s shocking to see on paper, but not so surprising if you’ve ever talked to an actual man, read a men’s magazine or looked at porn intended for men.Instead of the female curve, which suggests that 34-year-old women like 34-year-old men, men find 20 year-old women most physically appealing, no matter how old they were. This doesn’t mean that 40 year old men want to MARRY that 20 year old woman, only that they find her the most physically appealing.For me, and many other women like me, it all begins with a number. Before agreeing to a set-up, as a follow-up response or even playing a flirtatious game, I always find the answer to the question, “So, how old are you? And if you don't know who the Seavers are from “Growing Pains,” then you don't stand a chance.As much of our generation is delaying activities like marriage and procreating, we are, in effect, also prolonging its adolescence.