My story of being a pastor’s kid is difficult to write in isolation because it is tightly interwoven with the entirety of my life, and bleeds into so many other aspects of my journey.
Often when I am in an existential mood, I sift through the personality traits or struggles unique to me and try to trace them back to this facet of my life. How does that shape me differently than any other member of a family with any other father’s vocation? I have no doubt that being a daughter of a pastor comes along with some ‘perks’ — I’ve been privileged to see the inner workings of the leadership as the elders move towards new ministries.
The Rock Church's Marriage and Parenting Pastor Darren Carrington says parents need to teach their children from an early age about dating and marriage so they can spot "counterfeit" Christians who attend church but show no spiritual growth.
The NFL player-turned-pastor at the San Diego megachurch founded by Pastor Miles Mc Pherson, also a former San Diego Chargers football player, said he started teaching his two daughters and son about marriage from birth, modeling with wife, Vickie, what a "loving, imperfect, fun marriage" looks like.
Each one came with its own challenges for me as the PK.
In a church plant, I was expected to be the model citizen.
CP: At what age did you begin talking to your children about marriage and dating? Vickie and I began talking to our children about marriage and dating between the ages of 14-present!
"With the way things are moving at a faster pace in society these days, the media and society is making an impression on dating and marriage at a much younger age. With this in mind, I would say that 13 is a good time to begin having discussions around these topics," he told The Christian Post in an email.
Then, of course, there were the typical expectations from congregants and peers about the kind of person I should be — suppressed goody-two-shoes or debaucherous party girl?
Often people couldn’t deal with me if I didn’t fit within their labels.
There are times when he doesn’t acknowledge my questions because in his mind he is still in his counseling room, or in a hospital, or at the funeral of a little boy.
There were times when I was near-tears, yet I would shrink back from telling him why because the laments of a teenage girl seem petty when he has come from counseling a family torn asunder.