“But once we get to know each other, those feelings go away.” “I still have the same personality, the same bad sense of humor, the same love of trivia,” says Oliver, 38, who was paralyzed in a body-surfing accident when he was 21.
Having a disability can actually make a person stronger by forcing them to confront a painful reality.
Or Manhattanite Lauren Ruotolo, who has Mc Cune-Albright Syndrome, a rare genetic disorder that makes her body so fragile that, as a baby, she broke a femur rolling over in bed. “It’s definitely harder for people who are disabled because of the insecurities they have about someone looking at them.” So what are the secrets these possibly unexpected dating successes have to share? Character comes in all sorts of containers: fat and thin, short and tall, female and male, young and old.
Sometimes it comes in a “broken” container — one that goes about in a wheelchair or on crutches. “When people meet me, sometimes they say, ‘Oh my God, she’s disabled,’” says Ruotolo, who stands (with help from her constant companions, a pair of crutches) a little over four-foot-two in her Jimmy Choos — hence the title of her memoir, Unstoppable in Stilettos.
After a crippling accident, it can be very tempting for a disabled person to seek out a knight in shining armor — someone who will care for, help, and bend over backward for him or her.
But I'd rather be on my own than with someone who isn't quite right.
Your nose is too big, your bank account too small, and any decent person worth dating will run screaming the moment they get a peek of your daft family? ) Meet Tiffiny Carlson of Minneapolis, MN — wheelchair-bound power dater.
Or Rob Oliver of Pittsburgh, PA, also paralyzed — and happily married.
Today, dating for people with a disability has become a lot easier with the majority of people having access to the internet.
Those who are disabled now find there are many opportunities online for meeting new people and forming friendships and relationships.