In a new feature, our resident love-in-Japan writer Sara Who will be answering your questions on everything from dating rules to finding a partner to love, marriage and more. We met when we were still in university, but this April he graduated and was hired at a big company. Is there a reason why you feel he might not be faithful? This week, we’ve got a question that we’re sure many partners of Japanese men have struggled with: I’ve been dating my Japanese boyfriend for three years now. You seem mostly worried about him potentially cheating on you.Among Japanese teenagers the most basic way of starting to date someone is by giving them a “kokuhaku” or love confession.This sounds a bit creepy but it’s not so much telling someone you love them but rather the Japanese way of letting them know you like them and asking them out.In the land of overworked singles with little free time, it should come to no surprise that organized dating events are so popular.Speed dating is still very much alive in Japan with dozens of events happening every week.
While in the West you might see a long line of men buying chocolates or flowers for their special someone, here in Japan it’s the woman’s responsibility to buy a gift to give to their men.Growing up in Japan my parents were really strict and so I didn’t get an opportunity to start going on dates until after I graduated from high school.I did have a Japanese boyfriend but I ended things with him to go to school in California.Has he done anything in the past that could raise suspicion?Whatever you heard about Japanese salarymen, it’s not because your boyfriend became one that he will suddenly start seeing other women behind your back. Sorry to hear your relationship is suffering because of your boyfriend’s career. I don’t wanna doubt him, but sometimes I can’t help but listen to the rumors about salarymen. How do I cope with the late nights and delayed responses?This role reversal is just one of the unique aspects of living and dating in a new country.In this show we talk to Lorie and Sho about the challenges and rewards of being an intercultural couple.But you don’t know if they’re interested in you as a person or because of your foreignness.Christa: I actually approached someone on the train recently and he was totally ok with it but yeah it was kind of up to me to make a move.