Consider the following areas related to 'damage': Getting out the drill or hammer and doing a bit of DIY on a Sunday may seem like a good idea, but if you're accident prone check your insurance beforehand - home improvements can be a problematic area.Many providers may refuse to reimburse you if you drill through a water pipe or electrical wire - calling in a professional could end up saving you money in the long run.Emotional invalidation wears you down, and in the long term has an extremely negative effect on self-confidence and well-being.Studies have shown that it increases the likelihood of problems such as anxiety, depression, and borderline personality disorder in adulthood, and is sometimes labeled as a form of emotional abuse.It’s everywhere – and sometimes so subtle you don’t even realize it’s happening.Invalidation is so common in our society that you’ve probably inadvertently done it to others – and to yourself.
Any damage caused by rats or mice may not be covered under your policy, so if you notice the presence of vermin it's important to act quickly.
The second idea is that when children in a family are continually invalidated by their parents, they start to give them what the children think they want: saying and doing things which literally invite other people to invalidate them. I at first thought that maybe Linehan was re-discovering the wheel, but then I went back to the old book to look at how they defined disqualification.
To my surprise, disqualification is something one does to oneself, not to someone else.
I have followed those with an example of a possible empathetic response.
Speaker: Over time, little comments like the ones in bold add up and block the lines of communication.