Sex is certainly involved in polyamorous relationships; one feature of The Poly Life helps partners post and update the rules of their relationships, as managing boundaries between multiple couples can get tricky.
But above all, polyamory is less about sex specifically but rather pursuing relationships with multiple partners.
Released just last month, The Poly Life is an app aimed at the poly community.
As one of the family members told Vice, "there's nothing out there that's made for people in multiple relationships," unlike apps for hookups, of which there are plenty.
And the functional nature of The Poly Life highlights just how thoughtfully constructed these relationships, including those that involve families with children, can be.Open relationships can be found among even the most vanilla couples." He added that Open Minded is not a hookup site or a cheating site but a place for polyamorous people to find meaningful relationships that all parties involved consent to.Rebecca, 34, and her primary partner started using Open Minded to find additional partners after meeting on another dating site.But casual hookups, importantly, actually have little to do with polyamory.Indeed, rather than focusing on meeting new potential partners, the Poly Life app (currently available for i Phone and fundraising to launch for Android) features shared calendars, group chat and multiple tasks lists — not exactly sexy features, but ones helpful to maintaining the intricate connections of some polyamorous relationships.That helps explain why, when Open launched last year, over 36,000 people joined within the first week."The concept of monogamy is outdated, and monotony has pushed many relationships to take a turn for the 'monogamish,'" said Open Minded founder and CEO, Brandon Wade."It's not all full-swap swinging or poly-lifestyles.Sexual relationships where there is a deep emotional connection are also included.In this context, deep can mean emotionally intense, or it could also mean the kind of depth that comes from knowing someone for a very long time, and having learned to trust them implicitly; there may not be intense feelings about this person all the time, but you know they have your back, and you can count on them to be there for you.It’s more than physical attraction; it’s spiritual, it’s deep, it’s something really real.We go out a few times, we have intense, intimate conversations into the wee hours of the night, and the kind of sex where you start seeing God. When I find guys who I’m only into for the sex, and vice versa, I can keep them enthusiastically coming back to me for years.