Phil says that teenagers, especially younger pre-teens, don’t need to have boyfriends and girlfriends. Teenagers are known for being strong-willed and hard-headed; the more you tell them they cant do something, the more they want to do it.You may be happy to see your child begin to form meaningful bonds.But it’s natural to worry that adolescents will try to grow up too fast or might not understand what they’re getting into.When youre a parent, its easy to forget how you felt when you were a teen; all the fights with your parents and missed curfews.Its a good idea to stop and think about yourself as a teenager before you set out to create the perfect teen dating rules.By accident, you may hear some names that crop up more and more.RELATED: Living with a mood swingin' tween To get any personal info on your teen's dating, it's usually helpful to have some "grapevine" info to start with, like, "I heard that you and Sarah were going out … I'd rather hear the real scoop from you than have to rely on gossip." But don't expect a big download. Just because another mom has a Chatty Cathy, that doesn't mean your Clam-up Kid is "less close" to you. Younger teens usually pursue their romantic interests via texts and third parties who scout out whether the other party is interested.
Michelle Anthony, Ph D, a developmental psychologist and learning therapist in Denver, suggests an opening line like: “It sounds like a lot of kids are talking about dating now. ” If you can't tell what dating means to your kid, try discussing dating as shown on TV shows or in movies that are age-appropriate.Parents of teens with learning and attention issues may be particularly concerned about dating.That’s because struggling in school can lower kids’ self-esteem.Difficulties with self-control, social skills and other common challenges can make adolescents more inclined to make poor choices.Some teens with learning and attention issues are so eager to fit in that they tolerate treatment they shouldn’t.Laura Kastner, associate professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at the University of Washington, and author of Getting to Calm: Cool-headed Strategies for Parenting Tweens and Teens. What are the best strategies for opening up a dialogue about dating? Start on the outside of the topic of socializing, and hunt and peck.Who's in the group going to X's house Friday night? To keep it from being an interrogation—leading to shut down—it's good to just make it chit-chat in an effort to get the teen interested in a few topics so that they enjoy sharing.Every teenager and parent is different and each parent has different ideals and expectations for their child.One set of rules will not work for every household with a rebellious teen, but perhaps these guidelines will give you a place to start and a few ideas.“Of course it will probably be uncomfortable for both of you,” Anthony says.“But if he’s so uncomfortable that he gets angry or shuts down or otherwise just can’t continue the conversation, that’s a big sign that he’s not ready for this.” If so, assure your child that there’s no hurry to start dating.